When couples are in crisis . . .

Couples usually come into counseling when they have exhausted the means to resolve conflict with the abilities and resources present in their lives.  They may have sought out experienced family and friends for advice, possibly consulted with a spiritual leader, and searched endlessly on the internet for understanding and relationship tips.  In spite of all the time and energy and discussion poured into the relationship, the same arguments and feelings repeat over and over. By the time they walk into therapy, there’s a deep hurt and apprehension and a glimmer of cautious hope.  Whether the troubles started one month ago or ten years ago, THIS is a key first step where both individuals actively acknowledge that the problem may be one of process rather than a need to “fix” the other person. The  cycle of dysfunction may be one of communication, external relationships (in-laws, ex-es, step-s), trust and infidelity, dreams and purpose, addiction, or even character issues like manipulation.  Couples counseling explores markers of relationship health while tending to individual needs.  New strategies overcome barriers that keep vicious cycles repeating.  When these cycles are resolved, the relationship can again support and encourage the individuals’ growth in a loving and safe environment.